I recently managed to find myself a little unpaid job and it seems to be swallowing my time along with my millions of assignments I seem to have collected for myself!
Back to the question at hand.
I've recently written an article about what it means to be a single girl. And after writing it, It only reinforced all the reasons as to why there's nothing better than being 20 and single.
I have many, many, many, many, many, many (you get the hint that there are a lot of them) friends who are attached and all loved up, and I find myself asking where are they? They disappear of the radar for days on end spending time with their other halves, finding reasons to stay in rather come out and play, rarely spending a night alone, leaving nights out early because their partners wants to go home, and whilst I'm very aware of all of it happening I don't think I would give my left arm to morph into one of those people.
I mean please don't get me wrong its wonderful to be in a secure and loving relationship and knowing there's someone who adores spending time with you, but it seems to be so easy to lose yourself, and find yourself living a life which isn't just your own.
I know a girl who ended up spending so much time with her boyfriend that when i did on the odd occasion see her, I could barely manage to hold a conversation with her, and for at least 8months our friendship became stilted and awkward. It was sad at the time because I could feel her slipping away and how do you tell someone you miss them without it sounding like you dislike a partner or are jealous? It's hard and difficult to approach. When it all ended she came running back to the girls.... just like always, and its more than tempting to tell you friend to do one when that happens.
A girl in a relationship automatically assumes a different perception of a single girl.
'She's trying to come onto him'
'she looks like such a s**g'
'can she just go away'
Single girls immediately become a threat.
In reality the only thing thats being threatened is the sanity of the not so single girl
I think there is a very significant line between being a single girl who takes advantage of being able to do as she pleases, and then being a single girl and putting yourself out there to be taken advantage of by men.
I don't see it as a problem if a girl goes out and kisses several (OK perhaps not several but more than one) guys in one evening, We have all been there, so lets not pretend we haven't. But it's when you start going home with a different guy every night that well..... that's a different story with a few possible endings!
I have been single now for.... well for a very long time. There have been phases where I have been on the edge of a relationship but something has always gotten in the way. Maybe its the idea of knowing how my friends have behaved in relationships that put me off. The thought that I might leave people behind and miss out on things with the girls if I have a relationship scares me because i know what its like looking at it from an outside point of view.
You do miss out, on alot
I have a very good friend who quite frankly is the Ultimate single girl. She's an absolute comedy act when it comes to love, sex and everything inbetween. Watching her enjoying being single only reminds me why I love it so much to.
I don't have to worry about sharing my bed, or toilet seat issues, or embarrassing anyone but myself when I have had to much to drink.
Its freedom to be free at twenty and it has never felt so good.
Why when you're so young do some feel the need to turn something fun into an intense relationship?
To those in a relationship: They say love is blind, but don't let it blind you from what you're doing. Because whilst you're spending all your time with your partner, were off making new friendships, having new experiences and growing closer to the people we rely on when you're not around.
To those singletons out there: Enjoy it, Love it, Embrace it and finally just bask in the knowledge that there's nothing sexier or more attractive than a single girl who's into being single
