Because sometimes sharing is caring

Some people say that music feeds the soul like nothing else. For some people that may be true. For me however it's slightly different. When I need to find that inner calm when I'm angry or upset I don't just rely on the words of some lyrical genius. For me I find images and quotes together is what makes me feel good when I'm feeling something else. There is something which I find in these that talk to me.

Perhaps you'll find something in them that speaks to you, and makes you feel differently, make you smile, and maybe help you to see that life really isn't all that bad.

Seeing something laid out in front of you like this is so often more personal than someone saying these things to you. Sometimes you listen but you don't really hear.

A personal favourite of mine

Enough said.

It's a single life.

Wow you beautiful people I apologies for my lack of communication on here recently!
I recently managed to find myself a little unpaid job and it seems to be swallowing my time along with my millions of assignments I seem to have collected for myself!

Back to the question at hand.
I've recently written an article about what it means to be a single girl. And after writing it, It only reinforced all the reasons as to why there's nothing better than being 20 and single.

I have many, many, many, many, many, many (you get the hint that there are a lot of them) friends who are attached and all loved up, and I find myself asking where are they? They disappear of the radar for days on end spending time with their other halves, finding reasons to stay in rather come out and play, rarely spending a night alone, leaving nights out early because their partners wants to go home, and whilst I'm very aware of all of it happening I don't think I would give my left arm to morph into one of those people.
I mean please don't get me wrong its wonderful to be in a secure and loving relationship and knowing there's someone who adores spending time with you, but it seems to be so easy to lose yourself, and find yourself living a life which isn't just your own.

I know a girl who ended up spending so much time with her boyfriend that when i did on the odd occasion see her, I could barely manage to hold a conversation with her, and for at least 8months our friendship became stilted and awkward. It was sad at the time because I could feel her slipping away and how do you tell someone you miss them without it sounding like you dislike a partner or are jealous? It's hard and difficult to approach. When it all ended she came running back to the girls.... just like always, and its more than tempting to tell you friend to do one when that happens.

A girl in a relationship automatically assumes a different perception of a single girl.
'She's trying to come onto him'
'she looks like such a s**g'
'can she just go away'

Single girls immediately become a threat.
In reality the only thing thats being threatened is the sanity of the not so single girl

I think there is a very significant line between being a single girl who takes advantage of being able to do as she pleases, and then being a single girl and putting yourself out there to be taken advantage of by men.
I don't see it as a problem if a girl goes out and kisses several (OK perhaps not several but more than one) guys in one evening, We have all been there, so lets not pretend we haven't. But it's when you start going home with a different guy every night that well..... that's a different story with a few possible endings!

I have been single now for.... well for a very long time. There have been phases where I have been on the edge of a relationship but something has always gotten in the way. Maybe its the idea of knowing how my friends have behaved in relationships that put me off. The thought that I might leave people behind and miss out on things with the girls if I have a relationship scares me because i know what its like looking at it from an outside point of view.

You do miss out, on alot

I have a very good friend who quite frankly is the Ultimate single girl. She's an absolute comedy act when it comes to love, sex and everything inbetween. Watching her enjoying being single only reminds me why I love it so much to.
I don't have to worry about sharing my bed, or toilet seat issues, or embarrassing anyone but myself when I have had to much to drink.

Its freedom to be free at twenty and it has never felt so good.

Why when you're so young do some feel the need to turn something fun into an intense relationship?


To those in a relationship: They say love is blind, but don't let it blind you from what you're doing. Because whilst you're spending all your time with your partner, were off making new friendships, having new experiences and growing closer to the people we rely on when you're not around.

To those singletons out there: Enjoy it, Love it, Embrace it and finally just bask in the knowledge that there's nothing sexier or more attractive than a single girl who's into being single

Thou shalt NOT shop

I think I may have just set myself up for the biggest challenge I've ever tried. For me... This is a big deal!
For one month I'm going to give up the one thing that relaxes me, calms me down, and excites me. For one month I am no longer allowed to shop. Now for anyone who really knows me... They will know I have a penchant for all things fashionable...And also for spending my money, no matter what its on. So to call this a challenge is something of an understatement.
My life simply consists of the things that make me happy. Writing, trying to become a journalist, family and friends, social outings and shopping.
For many their fix's include some sort of sport/going to the gym or drinking alcohol or perhaps even turning a light switch on and off a hundred times before leaving a room. Mine however is clearly to spend money. It's not extreme as to the point where I'm spending all my money and flittering it away. I don't flitter (Ok maybe a tiny bit). I merely indulge myself in a past-time I enjoy to much to ever give up. Which is why this is only for a month, and not well... forever!
Myself and my friend Carli took this challenge upon ourselves after we read an article about a woman who gave up shopping for a YEAR???!! It amazed us.
1) I already know I could never do that, and I know myself well enough to not even bother trying
2) Was she insane!?!
There's no doubt about it that I'm going to come out of this richer (much richer) than I would be if I didn't, but that's not the only reason I'm doing it.
I don't have alot of will power, and I'll be the first to admit that, so I'm really doing this to prove to myself that I can stick to something. I guess because I love to buy clothes so much, I don't actually expect myself to be able to stick to this... Which is kind of the whole point.... if that makes sense!
My blog over the next few weeks will have updates about how much I'm struggling I'm sure, however if you believe I can do it... Then maybe I might just suprise myself

My Hero

You tucked me in, turned out the light
Kept me safe and sound at night
Little girls depend on things like that

There are thousands of people around the world list endless celebrities as their hero's.
But my hero isn't famous. Nor is she very well know at all. You wont know her. But I do. She's my mum.
This incredible woman has been my best friend, my mum and my soulmate since the day I was born.
On the days where I feel so confused and lost about what I'm doing in my life, she's there to hold my hand. At times like those, even words aren't needed.
Without so much as making a sound I know she's always there.

Brushed my teeth and combed my hair
Had to drive me everywhere
You were always there when I looked back

Mum, you made me the person who I am today.
The happiness in my heart is from the beautiful childhood you gave me
The gentleness in my actions is because you taught me to care
The understanding I know comes from your wisdom
But most importantly the beautiful rainbow I see over my shoulder is from your outlook and vision of how my life would look.

You had to do it all alone
Make a living, make a home
It must of been as hard as it could be

There's no other person in my life I trust, believe in and admire as much as this lady.
It's an amazing gift to have someone in your life who knows you better than you know your self. I've been lucky enough to have one
Unlike a lot of people my age I speak to my mother every day. Not because I feel I have to, but because I cant imagine not.

And when I couldn't sleep at night
Scared things wouldn't turn out right
You would hold my hand and sing to me

Mum I want you to know how proud I am of you. For making it through everything you have, for believing in life after everything you have endured.
Your the woman I aspire to be
And I just want you to know

I loveyou